As I sit here listening to Disney music, 90s kid 🙂 , with a cat creeping over my shoulder I feel at peace. But this is one day in a few where I have felt balanced. In this world today it is very hard to feel like we can love our lives with so much outside stimulation, pressure, and mind-numbingly information being thrown at our brains.
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You’ve all heard this stuff before, it’s nothing new. You all know the struggle. Just letting you know that I’m right there with you. I turned 28 this year and I’ve had so many of my older peers tell me I’m still so young and have the world ahead of me. Yeah, they are correct and though it true, it feels like, and to an extent, impossible to achieve what they were able to. Of course, if you put your mind to something it should become everything you want it. However, I’m sitting here with a Bachelors’s in my pocket, 6 years’ worth of work experience and I’m still not what employers want because there is always someone out there with one more thing better than me.
That’s how I’ve felt for a long time now. Very pessimistic, I know. I’m good at being a natural pessimist. It’s a role I take on very easily.
Since this is how I have been feeling, I fight all the time to make my everyday life more enjoyable so the other parts don’t seem so grey. Finding things that create an opposite effect to help balance your life is important today, in my opinion, one of the most important.
Some things I’ve found joy in or that have made my day by day routine more colorful:
- Cross- stitching – This is very fun and it doesn’t cost too much to get started. My Mom and Aunt taught me how to cross-stitch and I find it very relaxing. I can put on a movie or TV show and just go through the movements of the stitches, letting my creative brain take the wheel.
- Playing video games – I’ve always been a gamer. I go through game phases where I have to play my heart out until I need to take a game hiatus, but video games never fail in bringing me joy. I just bought the Switch and have been grinding Stardew Valley with my friend 🙂
- Cooking – I love to cook new types of meals. I enjoy finding something new to create and then loving the outcome of my efforts. (Thank you to the boyfriend for trying all these meals, especially the ones where I mess up everything.)
- Visiting Friends – This is probably the most important for me. When I get time with my best friends, my world lightens like a feather and I feel everything is perfectly in place at that time. I can relax in all parts of my mind, body, and soul.
- Reading – When picking up a book it helps to focus on something else. Reading a new story or adventure is always something I’ve found joy in, from childhood to an adult, I’ve always relied on reading to help bring me peace.
These are just a few things that provide the biggest impact of happiness for me. There are many more small things that I try to focus on to help me relieve any stress from everyday struggles.
Those struggles could be anything from:
“I can’t find my fucking sweater!”,
“The dishes need done, AGAIN!?”,
“KITTEN STOP IT!”,
“I can’t pay for that right now. I have to save for groceries.”
It’s been hard to find my calling in life, what I should be doing, what I want to do, who I should talk to, keeping up with friends and family life, etc, etc. It never ends. I became my own experiment project in adopting new changes to my life to try and live a fuller, healthier life over the last two years. Eating healthier, trying to exercise, engaging in the above activities, etc. Everyone has trouble keeping up, I’m no exception and sometimes I fumble more than what I like to admit.
We are all in the same boat. I know many of my friends who are, and we talk about it all the time.
If only it was as easy as Baloo says, “The bear necessities will come to you”. 🙂 But that is not the way. We have to make ourselves happy and create the balance we can live with, which includes the chaos that naturally comes along with balance.
I’m still sitting here wondering what I can do with my life, what I should be doing, what I’m good at, where I want to be. They are constant questions that run through my head at a million miles per second. At some point, you just have to tell yourself to take a break and relax.
Golly what a day!
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